Episodes
Thursday Nov 05, 2020
How to say the right thing
Thursday Nov 05, 2020
Thursday Nov 05, 2020
Spend less time crafting your message. Focus instead on the result you want and what it will take for someone else to hear you and take action.
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
Resilience: Grow Stronger in a Time of Crisis
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
My new book is now available for pre-order on Amazon! Here's a teaser of the three main ways to find the resilience you need to keep going and keep growing in uncertain times.
Sunday Apr 05, 2020
Take a few minutes to gain a better perspective
Sunday Apr 05, 2020
Sunday Apr 05, 2020
The problem with stress is that it closes up your focus so all you can see is the thing that is hard. It's difficult to access your best strengths or your best perspective from within tunnel vision. Use this exercise to open up better choices.
Saturday Mar 28, 2020
Other people see strengths in us that we might doubt in ourselves
Saturday Mar 28, 2020
Saturday Mar 28, 2020
Use this exercise to get at more of what you need to overcome a challenge or solve a problem. Remember yourself through the eyes of someone who knew you when you were younger, someone who resisted you or competed with you, and someone who loves you. Image by Henrik Nordell from Pixabay
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
Breathe to Connect
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
This is a short exercise we have been doing at NLP Canada Training to improve our connection when we are on phone or video calls or meetings. It was inspired by Patsy Rodenberg's work in The Second Circle. Try this one before your next web meeting and feel a more direct, human connection with the people on the other side of the screen.
Sunday Mar 15, 2020
Create an anchor to look and feel more confident
Sunday Mar 15, 2020
Sunday Mar 15, 2020
Confidence is . . .
Begin by thinking of a situation or a specific challenge that requires that you have confidence. Instead of saying, “I want to have more confidence when I’’m with clients,” pick one part of the process that regularly makes you wish you could speak and act with more confidence. Write that on a postcard.
As we hear the different situations where this team wants to act with more confidence, we understand that confidence involves a lot of different skill sets. It’s no wonder that it’s hard to feel confident before you’ve developed skill and experience. To speed up the process of building confidence, we need to understand how confidence shows up in our experience.
Here’s an NLP approach to confidence. Confidence is a state. A state is a word that describes how you experience the world and it includes: your physiology, your thoughts and beliefs, and your perceptions.
Confidence is
•a physical feeling of strength combined with
•a focus on something you want to be or to achieve combined with
•a heightened awareness of cues in your situation that will help you achieve what you want to achieve.
We can create a working model of confidence by remembering times when you have had each of these three experiences, and using a single anchor to trigger all three memories at once.
You can use a marble or other small object as an anchor for all three components of confidence.
Friday Sep 13, 2019
Three Questions for Better Relationships
Friday Sep 13, 2019
Friday Sep 13, 2019
Relationship building with NLP is about more than rapport or influence. When you ask better questions about relationships, you move beyond biases and assumptions and get a clearer vision of the benefits and growth that happen in good connections. Three questions make the difference:
1) How am I better because of this relationship?
2) How is the other person better because of this relationship?
3) What can we do together that we could not do as individuals? How are we more than the sum of our individual strengths?
When we take this positive frame and look for the benefits of being connected, we end up with fresh information about how things are working and what we want next.
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
How to Change a Habit (so you can change your life)
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
Most human behaviours - including yours! - are driven by automatic processing. We just do things. We do things repeatedly because we are getting something good or useful, even if we don't like how we are getting this benefit. In this exercise, I'll take you through identifying the benefit of a behaviour you want to change, testing three alternative behaviours, and then practicing the new behaviour so you are more likely to actually do it!
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
When you need to feel stronger and clearer, sit in these 4 chairs
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
Sunday Jun 16, 2019
This is a short exercises to help you reach in and access the strengths, skills and capabilities you need to feel clear and strong in a new or challenging situation. Use this #freeNLP to clear your head and connect with your best self.
Saturday Feb 02, 2019
Blindspots, Edges and How Systems Help Us Grow
Saturday Feb 02, 2019
Saturday Feb 02, 2019
Have you ever wondered how a course or coaching could help you get more out of life? Here's a simple explanation of a complicated reality. Your brain works to stabilize experience by noticing information that confirms what you already think. You have blindspots and edges and you aren't aware of them, because your auto-pilot is to notice only the things within the edges. To make new choices, you need to notice your edges and explore ways to stretch them.
Systematic thinking brings to mind things you have noticed but would not automatically generate as thoughts. Good training offers a system that makes you aware of edges so that you can make choices about where you want to push them back so you can grow new choices and new opportunities.