Shifts Work

Make the Connection: NLP in Brief

Have you heard that NLP helps you connect with people in a way that gives you more influence? How does that work exactly? 1) Making the connection begins when you understand that all human brains work through connection: they connect new information to information that is similar or related and store it in patterns. 2) The brain prioritizes information about other people and even modifies your own brain to reflect what you are observing (it shows up as matching and mirroring). This allows your brain to be more accurate in predicting who will help you and who might hurt you. 3) Your brain automatically tracks people who are paying attention to you so the fastest way to get attention is to give it.

This active connection is the foundation for influence.

A quick refocus saves healthy choices (and relationships)

Use the Swish, one of the core techniques of NLP (neurolinguistic programming), to refocus on making a healthy choice even when someone you care about is distracting you.

Purposeful Conversations with NLP

We often get nervous when we need to have a conversation that will give us something we want. We enjoy conversations for the sake of connection, but we don't know how to connect with purpose without becoming stressed or feeling manipulative. NLP offers you a better way to explore how significant conversations achieve connection and purpose.

Connect your purpose to your people for focus and motivation

A very quick version of our workshop on Your Purpose and Your People at NLP Canada Training. Pause after each exercise and let it resonate and settle before you move on to the next.

Betwixt and Between: 3 Tips for Better Living During Transitions

How can you stay calm, clear, focused and effective when you're in transition?  Use these 3 tips to consider how to be (and how to help someone else) when you find yourself betwixt and between stages, opportunities, or situations.

Focus on Strengths (when it‘s hard to see them)

This is a podcast version of a workshop on how to focus on the strengths in other people when those people are making it difficult. What can you do when you go into a conversation hoping for the best and find yourself being sucked into irritation or anxiety or confusion? Stop looking at the problems and start focusing on strengths. This podcast will walk you through three ways to do that.

Find Strength in Connection

This isn't about leaning on your friends, and it's not about choosing friends that you could lean on. It's about going into every interaction ready to find something you need to think better or feel better. This is a condensed version of our 90 minute workshop, so be prepared to press pause and think a little in between exercises.

How to Affirm Someone‘s Power to Make a Choice

It's crucial for managers, for parents, for teachers and for coaches: all of them need to have conversations that allow other people to take ownership of their problems and of their ability to make the choices they need to make. Learn the three key steps to engaging in a way that leads to the moment when you affirm that someone has the power they need to make a choice.

3 Steps to Successful Living: Sign Up. Show Up. Step Up.

Linda explores the three steps from knowing there is something you need to learn through the risks of beginning, to the moments when you put what you learn to work in the world. 

How to use negatives better

Three important ideas for using negatives better:

1) Uncover the benefits of starting with what you don't want

2) You need to match other people (with a negative) before you can get them to shift to a positive

3) The brain naturally weighs loss more than gain; it takes an effort to focus on the positive (when you start with a negative, you can lend someone some of your willpower so they can make a shift)