Relationship building with NLP is about more than rapport or influence. When you ask better questions about relationships, you move beyond biases and assumptions and get a clearer vision of the benefits and growth that happen in good connections. Three questions make the difference:

1) How am I better because of this relationship?

2) How is the other person better because of this relationship?

3) What can we do together that we could not do as individuals? How are we more than the sum of our individual strengths?

When we take this positive frame and look for the benefits of being connected, we end up with fresh information about how things are working and what we want next.

Most human behaviours - including yours! - are driven by automatic processing. We just do things. We do things repeatedly because we are getting something good or useful, even if we don't like how we are getting this benefit. In this exercise, I'll take you through identifying the benefit of a behaviour you want to change, testing three alternative behaviours, and then practicing the new behaviour so you are more likely to actually do it!

This is a short exercises to help you reach in and access the strengths, skills and capabilities you need to feel clear and strong in a new or challenging situation. Use this #freeNLP to clear your head and connect with your best self.

I was inspired by a conversation during a course to remind people to resist bad managers that insist that you look busy all the time. If you never sharpen your axe, you're not having your best ideas, and you're not producing as much as you could be.

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Have you ever wondered how a course or coaching could help you get more out of life? Here's a simple explanation of a complicated reality. Your brain works to stabilize experience by noticing information that confirms what you already think. You have blindspots and edges and you aren't aware of them, because your auto-pilot is to notice only the things within the edges. To make new choices, you need to notice your edges and explore ways to stretch them. 

Systematic thinking brings to mind things you have noticed but would not automatically generate as thoughts. Good training offers a system that makes you aware of edges so that you can make choices about where you want to push them back so you can grow new choices and new opportunities.

Achievement is a big word. It scares people because they think it's hard to live up to. But an achievement is just something that you do that is both difficult and worth doing. There's something in your mind now that you want to do, but you're not sure you can get it done. If you're sure that it will be worthwhile, then take a few minutes to walk through this guided visualization and find the motivation and congruence to do the the difficult thing that you want to do.

Wouldn't you like to be a little more persuasive when you need to get other people to take action? One of our most popular one day courses at NLP Canada Training is called Grow Your Impact. This podcast will give you an overview of the three components we practice in that course: listening with full attention; knowing what you want; and using irresistible language to suggest action.

When you're stuck, it can feel like the walls are closing in on you. There's not enough room to move and no good options. You want to think outside the box, but all you can see or feel is the box.

Let Linda guide you through an experience that will change the way you experience the box and it's place in the world. Thinking inside the box is more fun - and more productive - than you might expect.

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Take a few moments to think about how you get distracted from what you know you want. Then think about the coaching, training or connections who can help you stay on course when the going gets bumpy or something distracts you from doing what you need to do to make what you want happen.

Take 10 minutes and think about this simple pattern that can become the way you change your life for the better. It doesn't happen all at once, but as you practice this pattern of responses, you will own more of your experience. This is the best way I know to reduce anxiety and conflict and bounce back when the world knocks you over.