Shifts Work

You're not living in a sitcom. If you were, then you would find a solution to every problem in about 22 minutes. Real life takes longer.

In a workshop last week, we explored three ways to make a change in a habit or pattern. Since most of what we do is the result of unconscious patterns that our brain applies to our current situation, habits are important to us and often resist change.

This podcast walks you through the three approaches we took in the workshop and shows you how they represent one process for addressing a problem repeatedly until  you form a new pattern and get a result you like.

Are you as curious about the moments when life is good as you are about the times when something goes wrong? Humans are naturally focused on problems: we want to avoid them if we can and solve them if we can't. But when we are curious about the things that go right we set ourselves up for the states and behaviours that make life good.

Enjoy working through an NLP process to identify a quality you want to have and then explore a situation where you had it. The exercise allows you to explore the situation, notice the quality, track what changes because you have that quality, and then observe what changes in yourself because you had that quality.  You'll get drawn into genuine curiosity about who you are what you do when you have the quality you want to have. And you'll see how to do it again, on purpose.

Have you heard that NLP helps you connect with people in a way that gives you more influence? How does that work exactly? 1) Making the connection begins when you understand that all human brains work through connection: they connect new information to information that is similar or related and store it in patterns. 2) The brain prioritizes information about other people and even modifies your own brain to reflect what you are observing (it shows up as matching and mirroring). This allows your brain to be more accurate in predicting who will help you and who might hurt you. 3) Your brain automatically tracks people who are paying attention to you so the fastest way to get attention is to give it.

This active connection is the foundation for influence.

Use the Swish, one of the core techniques of NLP (neurolinguistic programming), to refocus on making a healthy choice even when someone you care about is distracting you.

We often get nervous when we need to have a conversation that will give us something we want. We enjoy conversations for the sake of connection, but we don't know how to connect with purpose without becoming stressed or feeling manipulative. NLP offers you a better way to explore how significant conversations achieve connection and purpose.

A very quick version of our workshop on Your Purpose and Your People at NLP Canada Training. Pause after each exercise and let it resonate and settle before you move on to the next.

How can you stay calm, clear, focused and effective when you're in transition?  Use these 3 tips to consider how to be (and how to help someone else) when you find yourself betwixt and between stages, opportunities, or situations.

This is a podcast version of a workshop on how to focus on the strengths in other people when those people are making it difficult. What can you do when you go into a conversation hoping for the best and find yourself being sucked into irritation or anxiety or confusion? Stop looking at the problems and start focusing on strengths. This podcast will walk you through three ways to do that.

This isn't about leaning on your friends, and it's not about choosing friends that you could lean on. It's about going into every interaction ready to find something you need to think better or feel better. This is a condensed version of our 90 minute workshop, so be prepared to press pause and think a little in between exercises.