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How to use negatives better

September 18th, 2021 · Comments

Three important ideas for using negatives better:

1) Uncover the benefits of starting with what you don't want

2) You need to match other people (with a negative) before you can get them to shift to a positive

3) The brain naturally weighs loss more than gain; it takes an effort to focus on the positive (when you start with a negative, you can lend someone some of your willpower so they can make a shift)

Tags: communication · framing · suggestion

NLP Practitioner Basics: The Skills to Engage with Difference

July 27th, 2021 · Comments

The final episode in our series on the core skills taught in the NLP Practitioner course. On their final day, our practitioners apply everything they have learned to three fundamental activities: learning, collaboration and influence. The point of all of them is the same: to engage with difference so that we move beyond individual limitations to feel better and achieve more. 

Tags: nlp · communication · diversity · learning · leadership · achievement

How Real is Zoom Fatigue?

March 20th, 2021 · Comments

According to researchers at Stanford, Zoom fatigue is real. But does that mean it's inevitable? Linda Ferguson offers an NLP (neurolinguistic programming) perspective on using your senses to engage in video chats and meetings. Linda references this TED talk on doodling and Adam Grant's recent podcast episode with Malcolm Gladwell.

Warning: this episode contains tips that might make you love connecting, even on Zoom.

Tags: Fresh Thinking · storytelling · communication · framing

Agree More to Collaborate and Innovate in UncertainTimes

September 25th, 2020 · Comments

Less  than 10 minutes to think differently about how to agree instead of disagreeing so that you let difference into your thinking. These are the skills that connect us and let us keep moving in uncertain times.

Tags: nlp · communication · diversity · mindset

Conversation with a Point

August 1st, 2020 · Comments

Here's a quick anchoring exercises that uses NLP to set you up to have conversations when you have a result in mind. Before you can influence, you have to engage in a conversation and this will help you make the right choices so you get what you want more often.

Tags: nlp · communication · anchor · influence · goal

An Introduction to Strategic Communication

February 10th, 2018 · Comments

Take about 20 minutes to walk through the basics of strategic communication. Learn how communication works automatically and how wanting something specific changes that. Explore why communication is always a part of how make positive change happen. Discover the three keys to being more strategic: 1) know what you want; 2) know what you have in common; 3) know what you don't know. And then walk through the core strategy for involving other people in making the change you want to see happen.

Tags: language · communication · influence · framing · strategy · leadership

Jedi Mind Tricks

April 16th, 2017 · Comments

Are you a Star Wars fan? The new trailer is out for the 2017 movie, and it's a good time to think about Jedi mind tricks. Is there a process that you could use in real life to get other people to do stuff with less resistance and better results?

Learn how the Jedi:

  • develop a mindful presence that allows them to read their environment through what is changing in themselves
  • connect their big picture "what I want my life to mean" to their small, defined asks
  • offer their full attention to the connection they need to make to get results
  • describe what they want in sensory tangible detail

If you're not getting results you like when you ask other people to do stuff, listen and then check your process against this process. If you don't have the power to make people do things and you can't argue them into doing them, it's time for a different approach.

Tags: language · communication · leading · focus

Banish distraction through small wins

August 10th, 2016 · Comments

When there's too much in your head, too much going on inside you and around you, it's time for a little will power. You don't need to build barriers or use force. You just need to step back and ask "what's the one thing I want to do right now?" And then, when you know what to do, ask yourself "what state will support me in accomplishing just this one thing?" The way to trigger that state is to look for tiny changes you can make in yourself, your actions or your surroundings. Each change that begins to create the desired state is a small win. A series of these small wins leads to the state, which leads to accomplishing the goal. And as soon as you have, you can ask yourself again, "so what is the one thing I want next?"

When you repeat this process,  your day becomes a series of the small wins that lead to big satisfaction.

Tags: communication · calm · focus

Suggestions can be more powerful than commands

July 22nd, 2016 · Comments

Listen to this episode to discover how easily you are led to accept ideas that come from a trusted source in a relationship you value. Whether you are making or taking suggestions, it's appropriate to also take a deep breath and ask yourself: is this really what I want? how much of this motivation is a desire to stay connected? what else do I want now?

Tags: · DefaultTag · communication · framing

Spot the frames when someone else is speaking or writing

June 24th, 2016 · Comments

Take ten minutes to get better at noticing the structure which is setting you up to interpret a communication in a particular way. Structure is inevitable: it's how language works. When a structure is embedded into a communication, it is as hard to notice as the bone structure of a human being. You might not think about it consciously, but you notice the shape it gives your thinking and you use it to interpret the details.

This is a simple (but not easy) three step method for getting better at spotting frames in communication that you hear or read. Following this process will make you quicker to see the implications or consequences of buying into what someone is saying and it will give you more choices about how to interpret the information being shaped by the frames.

Photo credit: Les Chatfield, https://www.flickr.com/photos/elsie/

Tags: communication · framing

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