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Three Questions for Better Relationships

September 13th, 2019 · Comments

Relationship building with NLP is about more than rapport or influence. When you ask better questions about relationships, you move beyond biases and assumptions and get a clearer vision of the benefits and growth that happen in good connections. Three questions make the difference:

1) How am I better because of this relationship?

2) How is the other person better because of this relationship?

3) What can we do together that we could not do as individuals? How are we more than the sum of our individual strengths?

When we take this positive frame and look for the benefits of being connected, we end up with fresh information about how things are working and what we want next.

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How to Change a Habit (so you can change your life)

June 16th, 2019 · Comments

Most human behaviours - including yours! - are driven by automatic processing. We just do things. We do things repeatedly because we are getting something good or useful, even if we don't like how we are getting this benefit. In this exercise, I'll take you through identifying the benefit of a behaviour you want to change, testing three alternative behaviours, and then practicing the new behaviour so you are more likely to actually do it!

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When you need to feel stronger and clearer, sit in these 4 chairs

June 16th, 2019 · Comments

This is a short exercises to help you reach in and access the strengths, skills and capabilities you need to feel clear and strong in a new or challenging situation. Use this #freeNLP to clear your head and connect with your best self.

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Blindspots, Edges and How Systems Help Us Grow

February 2nd, 2019 · Comments

Have you ever wondered how a course or coaching could help you get more out of life? Here's a simple explanation of a complicated reality. Your brain works to stabilize experience by noticing information that confirms what you already think. You have blindspots and edges and you aren't aware of them, because your auto-pilot is to notice only the things within the edges. To make new choices, you need to notice your edges and explore ways to stretch them. 

Systematic thinking brings to mind things you have noticed but would not automatically generate as thoughts. Good training offers a system that makes you aware of edges so that you can make choices about where you want to push them back so you can grow new choices and new opportunities.

Tags: DefaultTag · perception · focus · goal · training

What thinking inside the box can mean for you

July 1st, 2018 · Comments

When you're stuck, it can feel like the walls are closing in on you. There's not enough room to move and no good options. You want to think outside the box, but all you can see or feel is the box.

Let Linda guide you through an experience that will change the way you experience the box and it's place in the world. Thinking inside the box is more fun - and more productive - than you might expect.

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Tags: DefaultTag · Fresh Thinking · goal · framing

Prepare for the influence you want to have

December 14th, 2017 · Comments

Is there a conversation you need to have or a presentation you need to make so that you can influence change? The only reason for communicating is so that someone can take an action they might not have taken without your words. Use this recording to mentally rehearse so that you prime yourself for the state, the connection, and the effect you want to have.

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The 4 Keys to Achievement

April 30th, 2017 · Comments

The Cambridge English Dictionary says that an achievement is "something very good and difficult that you succeed in doing." Take 12 minutes to explore the 4 keys to achievement that will reliably allow you to do the right thing when you know what the right thing is.

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Strategies: How to Recognize Them, Model Them and Change Them

October 14th, 2016 · Comments

A strategy is a set of perceptions and behaviours that occur in a particular sequence to reliably achieve a specific result. Any reliable result is generated by a strategy - even if it is a bad habit or a response you don't find useful. The way to change a result is to alter at least one element in the strategy so that the strategy can no longer function to get that result.

To learn how your strategies work, pick one thing that you can do reliably, whether it is reliably good or reliably less than useful. Ask yourself what must be true in yourself and in your environment to trigger this strategy. Then walk through, step by step, asking "what else must be true" until you have a complete process.

If it's a process that gets a result you like, you can now use it more often. If it's a process that leads reliably to a result that you don't like, you can change just one element to create new choices.

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Suggestions can be more powerful than commands

July 22nd, 2016 · Comments

Listen to this episode to discover how easily you are led to accept ideas that come from a trusted source in a relationship you value. Whether you are making or taking suggestions, it's appropriate to also take a deep breath and ask yourself: is this really what I want? how much of this motivation is a desire to stay connected? what else do I want now?

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Mindful limits: How language helps you find the edges of your pain

March 14th, 2016 · Comments

This exercise takes less than 10 minutes to demonstrate that mindful attention in response to language allows you to find the edge to your experience of pain. As you do, you'll find your breathing settles, your mind clears, and you develop the ability to choose to focus on your pain or to focus on what is on the other side of the edges of your pain.  And if you do focus on your pain, you will find that human focus blurs, so that paying attention to only one thing creates a sense of calm and space, even when what you give your focus is painful at first. And you will notice that on the other side of the edges of your pain, you are calm and centred and you have what you need to move forward.

Tags: DefaultTag · healing · language · calm · mindset